As your child approaches teen age %u2013around 12-13 years old- you%u2019ll experience some changes in him. He will probably be out of the house more often and wants to keep his privacy from you. Other times, he may not be listening to you nor doing what you ask him.
Many parents in the world find the same troubles when dealing with their teens. Hope you don%u2019t get them. But if you do, don%u2019t worry! Keep on reading to get solutions.
Just like when you were a teenager, you wanted to spend times with your peers rather than with your parents or family, right? Your teen feels the same way, too. Making his own decision is another important thing for him besides privacy.
Now, do you think your teen is out of control and never wants to listen to you?
Don%u2019t give up! Of course you can help yourself deal with your teen. The best way to do it is to always strengthen your relationship with him. But how?
Here are the solutions:
1. Talk with him more %u2013 It%u2019s better if you start the conversation. It can be just %u201CHow was your day, buddy?%u201D Try to discuss many things instead of interrogate him. Find interesting topics, such as sport, entertainment, friends, and school experience to make it relaxing.
2. Listen to him %u2013 If he reveals his criticism to you, listen to him and ask what he expects you to do. Talk about this wisely, not emotionally. It%u2019s good for him to be able to express the feeling.
3. Set rules for him %u2013 Your teen needs to recognize what is and isn%u2019t acceptable and what the consequences of misbehavior are. Therefore you should set, or precisely, negotiate some rules with your teen to keep him on track.
4. Consider his point of view %u2013 Regard your teen as your friend and respect his opinion whenever you discuss something. This also shows that you pay attention to him and consider him as important.
5. Encourage your teen by doing his interests and talent %u2013 Most teens like to try new things. Let yours choose what he desires, though you don%u2019t agree with it because, for example, it can endanger him. Giving him support is the best you can do, while you keep monitoring that the new activity is safe for him. Moreover, this idea is a good way of teaching your teen on how to be responsible with things he does.
6. Do things together %u2013 This one is surely a great opportunity for you to improve your relationship with your teen. Why? %u2018Cause you probably haven%u2019t had much time to spend with him. Arrange agenda for the whole month. In each week, make an interesting plan for you and him and get the pleasant results at the end of it.
Still about the last point above, think of exciting activities you both can do together. For example, in the first week, play video games together on Saturday, while on the next day both of you can go bowling or swimming at the beach.
Later, in the following weeks, set up enjoyable weekends by doing these: having breakfast at a popular coffee shop which makes your teen%u2019s favorite food and beverage, going fishing, going to the movie, camping, or visiting a college where your teen looks forward to join in the future.
Conclusively, warm and positive communication without underestimating your teen is a key to successful relationship between the two of you. Clearly it won%u2019t work at once. Try the tips progressively and enjoy your time being a parent of a teenager.