Parenting is one of the most challenging things many encounter in their daily lives. Understanding what makes a good parent is one way to improve your own skill set related to raising a happy and healthy person. It it important that you recognize the signs of good parenting change along with the development of your child, and you need to adjust yourself accordingly.
Many other factors influence what skills you need to have when raising your children, including their personalities. Even if you already have a couple of children you might be surprised to discover a radically different personality in your third child. Adjusting your parenting tactics is essential to the emotional and mental health of the “different” child.
While rambunctious kids need to have outlets for their excessive energy, those who are more reserved need encouragement to come out of their shells. What makes a good parent for each child will differ. This is not an indicator that either child is “bad” nor that you have done anything wrong.
In fact, the debate between nature and nurture has left many parents confused about their responsibilities. You cannot change their nature but you can nurture your child to bring out the best aspects of their personality traits. Doing so will empower your child and improve your bond.
Becoming a great parent starts with intent. Then, you need to seek tools that will help you achieve your goals. For instance, you might might find a parenting group in your local community or online where people like you network. There, you can share your troubles and receive support and feedback from other people who have experienced, or are currently experiencing, similar situations.
Communication is a skill that virtually everyone could improve upon. As a parent, poor communication with your child can have lifelong consequences. In addition to discovering the right language to use when speaking to your youngsters you need to practice intentional listening. Though challenging in the fast pace of modern society the results will be worth it!
Another challenge presented by the abundance of modern living is telling your kids “no.” Thanks to the marketing efforts of food and toy manufacturers children mimic the adult habit of seeking new stuff rather than reading or practicing essential skills. They know how to whine and beg in order to get their way. However, life doesn’t dole out everything you want and teaching your kids that it does sets them up for rough lessons once they have reached adulthood.
Remember that your ultimate goal when parenting your kids is not to keep them cute, little and dependent. Instead, it should be to provide them with the skills and tools necessary to thrive in the adult world. Focus your attention and energy on who your child is becoming, not the baby you brought home. This one simple rule will help to guide your decisions when faced with uncertainty and bring your entire family closer together as a result of the honest and open communication you have established.